The Power to Change
Change comes from our awareness of what we want, the choices that are available to us, and clarity about the collective forces opposing us
About Nancy Shanteau
What happens *after* liberation? We’ll still need to recenter ourselves, communicate and work together to create lives that reflect our values and bring us connection and joy. I’ve dedicated my life to creating pragmatic, actionable methods for surviving the challenges that arrive and creating the changes we want
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It’s so helpful when we wait until we have enough energy to make a change.
That’s why “slow change, low harm” is such a helpful approach to making big changes. Take away the pressure, add compassion and patience, and align yourself with what you want to experience.
After 17 years of making slow changes, I can attest to the longevity and ease of making changes this way.
It works and it *doesn’t* hurt!
No pain, no pain.
Now that’s what I’m talking about.
When something goes down in a relationship, it can be confusing to figure out what *really* happened.
- Is it your fault or the other person’s? Does fault-finding even help?
- Whose responsibility is it to make the first move to repair and reconnect?
- If someone’s asking you for accountability for your part, how do you even begin to figure out what’s required of you?
By exploring the sequence of events, how you felt, and the stories you made up about the other person’s motivations, you can start to build a big picture understanding of the events…
…and even more importantly, figure out what you want next.
Sometimes, all the members of a household are not equally capable of doing all the household labor. Likewise asking someone to complete an “equal” share of the chores might disproportionately and negatively affect them.
When the amount of energy and effort it takes for one person to complete their share is vastly greater than the energy and effort it takes for others to do similar tasks…
…it’s time for us to reconsider what’s “fair” and “equal.”